THE BATTLE FOR "SHALOM" - part 6

VATRONUS

 

AND IT REQUIRES Vatronus-giving in, yielding b’shaas ma’asoh, at the time of potential discord; and vatronus l’achar hamaasoh, after the deed is done, - forgiving easily. Rabbi Yosef Weiss in his Visions of Greatness (Vol. 3 pp. 92-94) brings a telling incident of Reb Schneur’s vatrunus, b’sha’as ma’asoh, in trying circumstances:

 

Yehoshua [the name is fictitious] a young yeshiva student learning in Lithuania, often dreamed of meeting the legendary Reb Aharon Kotler, the fiery rosh yeshiva in Kletzk. What a zechus it would be to meet such a lion of Torah face to face!

Once, he asked a friend of his who had seen Reb Aharon, “Tell me, if I would meet Reb Aharon by chance on a train, how would I be able to recognize him?”

The friend smiled. “Simple,” he replied. “If you see a man with blue fire burning in his eyes, you will know it is Reb Aharon.”

Years went by and the Nazis came to power. Jews throughout Eastern Europe frantically scrambled to find means of refuge and escape from the terrible German onslaught. Yehoshua was one of the many yeshiva bachurim who rushed to Kovno in an effort to obtain a visa to leave the country.

Once he arrived in Kovno, Yehoshua made his way to the visa office. He was hardly surprised to find a line of people waiting their turn to talk to the consul, but he was dismayed at the size of the line. There were literally dozens and dozens of people in front of him. Yehoshua had no choice but to take his place in line and wait.

Hours passed. Yehoshua tried to tell himself that all these other people were also trying to save their lives, but he couldn’t help growing more and more anxious as the line hardly moved. All those people before him would get their visas, but would he? Who knew how many visas would be issued? What would he do if they ran out of visas before his turn arrived?

Yehoshua felt himself beginning to panic. I must get a visa! He thought over and over. I must get out of this terrible country! Desperately, he tried to push himself forward, longing to be at least a few inches closer to the head of the line and potential safety.

A young man standing in front of Yehoshua turned around inquiringly. Yehoshua flushed, embarrassed with his impetuous behavior. Then, without a word, the young man stepped aside and gestured for Yehoshua to take the place in front of him.

As Yehoshua slowly stepped forward, he glanced at the young man with awe. Such an act was true mesiras nefesh. Who could this young man be? He, too, was surely desperate to receive a visa and escape the Nazi menace. What kind of nobility did this young man possess that allowed him to act in such a selfless manner?

Yehoshua finally reached the head of the line. Minutes later, he was holding a precious visa in his trembling hands. He was glad to see that the noble young man who had offered him his place was able to receive a visa, too.

Later, Yehoshua discovered that the young man was none other than Reb Shneur Kotler, Reb Aharon’s son. He marvelled over Reb Shneur’s wonderful character. If such was the nobility of the son, imagine what the father must be like!

[Rav Chaim Halpern, is a Rosh Yeshiva in the Novaradok community in France, which was founded by the legendary Tzadik Rav Gershon Leibman zt'l after the war and headed by him until his ptirah in 1995. Rav Chaim told this writer that Reb Gershon so instilled in his talmidim the attribute of savlonus; Savlonus as a supreme Avodah - Savlonus as a means of Sholom - Savlonus b’nusach Novaradok - come what may, that in the entire history of their kehilla there has never been a single divorce!]

As for Vatronus after the deed . . .

A person in Lakewood did something harmful to the yeshiva which upset Rav Schneur zt'l as well as the Talmidei HaYeshiva. Afterwards he came to Reb Schneur to explain himself and sort of apologize, but it was obvious that his explanations were poor and he was not very sincere. Nevertheless Rav Schneur accepted the apology and the excuse and escorted him out in friendship as if nothing had happened. Talmidim came to Reb Schneur and expressed the opinion that since the apology was obviously not very sincere and the excuses obviously inadequate the man shouldn’t be “let off” so easily.

Rav Schneur shot back with a quote from Orchos Chayim L’HaRosh (Yom Shishi): Al Tachshov Oven Lmi Sheyovo L’Hisnatzel L’fonecho Im Emes V’im Sheker – “Don’t find fault in a person who excuses himself to you – whether truthfully or falsely!” (Heard from Rav Dovid Schustal shlita who adds that it was altogether much easier and much more desirable to Rav Schneur to forgive a person and be on good terms with him, than to hold a complaint against him. Any excuse to forgive and make peace was sufficient).

There are some fascinating Shmuessen (talks on topics of Mussar - the Torah approach to self improvement) in Mishnas Rav Aharon on Savlonus and controlling anger (see “B’tachbulos Ta’aseh Milchomoh - B”, Vol I pp. 220-1, First ed.); on fighting jealousy, pride, r’difas hakovod etc., (see “Chovas Hahisbonenus Hamusoris” pp.124-6) and so on.

And Noam Siach is replete with talks on these subjects. This was a major part of their Avodas HaKodesh.

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