May one invite a gentile on Shabbos to partake of the Shabbos meal?
It is muter
to invite a gentile to partake of the Shabbos meal,
unlike Yom Tov, as we
will see.
May one invite a gentile on Yom Tov to eat at
the Yom Tov table?
There definitely is a serious problem in inviting a gentile, on Yom Tov,
to partake of your Yom Tov meal, for the following reasons:
The possuk in (Sh’mos 12:17) states 'ach asher yochal
l'chol nefesh hu levado ya'aseh lachem',
which teaches us that one may cook on Yom Tov for the sake of Yom Tov.
However, at the end of the possuk the word
ìëí – for you, the gemora
explains, means that one may not cook or do any melacha for a
gentile. This means that one may cook and roast chicken for a Jew on Yom
Tov, but not for a gentile.
What could be wrong, if for example the food is
prepared in a single pot?
Chazal
prohibited preparing food for a gentile on Yom Tov even though one is
cooking it in the same pot without any extra effort. The question
becomes more difficult when the Shulchan Aruch HaRav
points out that the
halacha states that one may fill a pot of water and boil it even
though one only needs the amount of one cup and the remainder will be
used after Yom Tov.
(One may not say
that the excess is for after Yom Tov and it may only be filled in one
occurrence). If so, why is it ossur to cook extra for a gentile
even though there is no extra effort invested?
The answer is that
when one invites a guest over to eat, one makes sure that there is ample
food for one’s household and for the newly arrived guest. Chazal
were afraid that one would cook extra food for the guest in a
separate cooking pot and thus violate the issur of cooking for a
gentile. Therefore, even though one does not intend to cook in a
separate pot for the gentile, there is reason for concern that it might
lead thereto.
Does that mean that I may not give my Yom Tov
food to my gentile maid?
No, it is not the
same. The reason for the distinction is because one’s maid is not a
“guest” and is not treated with the same honor. One would not cook extra
food in a separate pot for the maid and therefore there is no room for
concern. However, one may only add extra to the pot in the first place
before the initial cooking but not add to the pot after it is already on
the stove even for one’s maid.
There are exceptions
to the rule, for example, certain dishes have a better taste when there
is more food in the pot, which would permit adding food to the pot even
after it is on the stove, but a rav would need to be consulted because
this does not always apply. As mentioned, the optimal is to add as much
as necessary to the pot before cooking.
May I invite the guest on Yom Tov after the
food is prepared? It seems that then there is no room to be concerned
that I will cook more food.
Even in this case it
is forbidden to invite a gentile.
What if the gentile arrives uninvited?
If the guest arrives
after your meal is already prepared the person may partake of the meal.
If however the person is a VIP, there are those who prohibit this unless
you explicitly say to the guest that he may share whatever you have
prepared. Even if the person arrives of his own accord, you may not coax
and invite the guest, because that is similar to an invitation.
How does the halacha regard someone who
publicly and knowingly violates the shabbos with regards to this
halacha?
The poskim
rule that such a
person shares the same status as a gentile in many respects and in this
case as well. Since this question is very pertinent to many people all
over the world, a rav must be consulted as how to deal with such a
situation.
What is the correct conduct with regards to
eating cheesecakes and other milchigs at the Yom Tov fleishig meal?
Many have the custom
to begin the Yom Tov meal with milchigs and then continue with the
fleishig meal. The Mishna Berura
says the following:
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One may not use
the same challah for milk and meat.
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Separate
tablecloths must be spread for milk and meat.
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One should not eat
hard yellow cheese because (in certain cases) one will have to
bentsch before the meat meal and wait 6 hours.
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One need not
bentsch or wait between the milk and the meat, it is sufficient to
wash one’s mouth and eat something to clean the mouth between the milk
and the meat.
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[Other sources,
not the M”B] - Some have a custom to wait half an hour between
milky and meaty and also many have the custom to bentsch
between the two.]