The Gemara rejects this suggestion, saying that there is a logical reason why
the father receives the money of Boshes and Pegam, and that is because "it
pertains to him," giving him legal entitlement to those payments, whereas
Kidushin does not pertain to him. RASHI explains, based on the Gemara earlier
(40b), that the reason the Boshes and Pegam are given to the father is
because it was in his power to torment his daughter with Boshes and Pegam by
marrying her off to a Menuval (a loathsome, repulsive person) or Mukeh
Shechin (leper) and receive the money of Kidushin for doing so. Therefore, he
is rightfully entitled to the money paid for her Boshes and Pegam.
Rashi's words are perplexing. The Gemara does not yet know that a man may
marry off his Na'arah daughter and receive the money of Kidushin -- the
Gemara is still looking for a source for that! How can the Gemara say that he
receives the payments of Boshes and Pegam because he could marry her off? We
do not yet know that he may marry her off! (TOSFOS, Kidushin 3b)
(a) TOSFOS in Kidushin (3b, DH v'Chi Teima) answers that the Gemara means
that the father gets the money of Boshes and Pegam since he may marry her off
while she is a *Ketanah*. Since he could marry her off to a Menuval or Mukeh
Shechin and she would *continue to suffer* Boshes and Pegam when she becomes
a Na'arah, therefore he is entitled to receive the payments of Boshes and
Pegam even when she is a Na'arah (even if he could not marry her off at that
stage). We do have a source that the father may marry off his daughter when
she is a Ketanah, as the Gemara taught earlier.
Tosfos rejects this approach, though, because if the father is entitled to
receive the payments of Boshes and Pegam when his daughter is a Na'arah since
he could have married her off while she was a Ketanah, then he should also
receive those payments even after she becomes a Bogeres! He could have
married her off when she was a Ketanah to a Menuval or Mukeh Shechin and she
would still be suffering from it as a Bogeres!
The CHASAM SOFER (Kesuvos 40b) has another objection to this approach. Even
if her father marries her off to a Menuval or Mukeh Shechin, after the
Nesu'in we can force him to divorce her, like the Mishnah says later (Kesuvos
77a).
TOSFOS here in Kesuvos (40b, DH d'Iy Ba'i) gives a variation of this answer.
Normally, a Ketanah is capable of receiving and keeping payments for physical
damages done to her, like the Gemara says in Bava Kama (87b). Yet payments
for Boshes and Pegam are still given to her father and not to her. Hence, the
Gemara wants to learn from there that the Kidushin of a Na'arah should also
be given to the father even though the Na'arah has a "Yad" and is able to
accept her own Kidushin.
The Gemara rejects this suggestion by saying that the payments of Boshes and
Pegam of a Ketanah rightfully belong to her father (even though she is
capable of receiving payment for physical damages), since while she was a
Ketanah he could have married her off and received money for causing her to
suffer Boshes and Pegam. We already have a source that a father may marry off
his daughter when she is a Ketanah, and therefore the Gemara's logic is
sound. The Gemara is not saying that he could marry her off while she is a
Na'arah.
(b) TOSFOS and TOSFOS YESHANIM (40b) suggest that when the Gemara says that
"it pertains to him," the Gemara does not mean that her father could marry
her off to a Menuval or Mukeh Shechin. Rather, it means that her father
himself suffers from the embarrassment and affliction experienced by his
daughter. Therefore, there is more reason to give the payments of Boshes and
Pegam to him than to give the money of Kidushin to him.
This answer is lacking, though, because the Gemara (40b) does not give this
reason as the reason why the father is entitled to the payments of Boshes and
Pegam of his daughter. The Gemara says that he gets them because he could
marry her off to a Menuval or Mukeh Shechin, like Rashi says here! Why, then,
does the Gemara here not respond that Boshes and Pegam cannot be a source for
letting the father keep the money of Kidushin, because -- on the contrary --
the fact that he gets the money of Kidushin is the source for why he gets the
Boshes and Pegam?
Tosfos answers that the Gemara means to say that even if we find another
source for why we give the Boshes and Pegam to the father, we would still not
be able to learn from Boshes and Pegam that the father gets the money of
Kidushin.
(c) TOSFOS (Kidushin 3b, and as cited by the Rishonim here) suggests that our
Gemara holds that a Na'arah can become Mekudeshes either by herself *or* by
her father. (This is in fact the way that Reish Lakish understands the
opinion of the Chachamim in Kidushin 43b). If so, the Gemara knows that the
father could be Mekadesh his daughter when she is a Na'arah and keep the
money of Kidushin. Rather, the Gemara is asking for a source that even when
the Na'arah marries herself off, the father still gets the money of Kidushin.
The Gemara says that the source cannot be from Boshes and Pegam, because
those payments are given to the father because he could marry her off to a
Menuval or Mukeh Shechin. Therefore, we cannot prove from Boshes and Pegam
that if the daughter marries herself off, the father still gets the money for
Kidushin. (The Gemara in Kidushin 44a, though, concludes like Rebbi Yochanan,
who says that only the father may marry off his Na'arah daughter, and not the
Na'arah herself.)
(This approach of Tosfos answers another question posed by Rashi in our Sugya
(DH Ketanah). Rashi asks why the Gemara does not learn from "Es Biti Nasati"
(Devarim 22:16) that the father could marry off his daughter when she is a
Na'arah. Tosfos will answer that we do learn from there that he may marry her
off, but the Gemara is asking why *he* gets the money of Kidushin when *she*
marries herself off.)
(d) None of the above approaches conforms to the way Rashi (DH d'Shayach Bah)
explains this Gemara. Perhaps Rashi has a different approach altogether.
Rashi might be learning that the Gemara knows all along that a father may
marry off his daughter who is a Na'arah, and that the Na'arah herself may not
marry herself off. That Halachah could be learned from the Halachah of
Hafaras Nedarim, since they are both laws of Isur, as Tosfos himself asks (DH
Mamona). Thus, when the Gemara asks that we should learn that the father may
marry her off and keep the money of Kidushin from the fact that he gets
Boshes and Pegam, it already knew that the father may marry off his Na'arah
daughter, but did not yet know that the money of the Kidushin goes to the
father.
This answers another question. If we do not yet know that the father has the
right to marry her off, then how can the Gemara learn that right from Boshes
and Pegam? Boshes and Pegam does not teach that he may marry her off, but
only to whom the profits go. It must be that the Gemara knew all along that
the father may marry her off. The only question is when he does marry her
off, who gets the money of the Kidushin: the father or the daughter?
Why does the Gemara not prove that the father gets the money of Kidushin with
the Kal v'Chomer that it mentioned earlier, that if he is the one who marries
her off, then certainly he should receive the money? The answer is that the
Gemara there means that if the father *receives the money* of Kidushin in
order to marry her off, then certainly he *keeps that money* and does not
have to give it to his daughter after he effects the Kidushin by receiving
it. The verse of "Es Biti Nasati" implies that he may actually accept the
money of Kidushin in order to make the Kinyan of Kidushin (and not just that
he may agree to the Kidushin) when his daughter is a Ketanah, and if he may
accept the money, then he certainly gets to keep it. In the case of a
Na'arah, though, we know that he may marry her off to someone, but we do not
know who accepts the money -- may he accept the money (and keep it), or is
she the one who accepts the money (and keeps it).
The Gemara tries to prove from Boshes and Pegam that the father should be the
one to accept and keep the money, since it is a profit made by his daughter.
The Gemara rejects this proof because the father may marry her off to a
Menuval or Mukeh Shechin and take money for causing her to suffer Boshes and
Pegam.
This sheds light on another seemingly inexplicable point in the words of
Rashi. Rashi explains, when the Gemara rejects the proof from Boshes and
Pegam, that the father could take money for marrying her off with "Kidushei
Bi'ah" to a Menuval or Mukeh Shechin. Why does Rashi mention Kidushei Bi'ah?
The father could marry her off with any type of Kidushin, including Kesef and
Shtar (and afterwards the Menuval will be Bo'el her)!
Rashi might mean that the Gemara knows already that the father has the right
to agree with or refuse the Kidushin; the question is only who *accepts* the
money or Shtar of the Kidushin. Since it is possible that the daughter is the
one who accepts the Kesef or Shtar, the Gemara cannot be saying that the
father has the ability to give his daughter to a Menuval in exchange for
being Mekadesh her with Kidushei Kesef or Shtar, because even though the
father agrees to the Kidushin, if his daughter refuses to accept (and make a
Kinyan on) the Kesef or Shtar the Kidushin cannot take effect. Therefore, it
is not within the father's power to effect such a Kidushin against his
daughter's will. However, he could tell a Menuval or Mukeh Shechin to go and
be Bo'el his daughter and be Mekadesh her with Bi'ah. Even if the Mukeh
Shechin does that against the will of the Na'arah, the Kidushin will be valid
because it is done with the consent of the father. Consequently, the father
is entitled to take the money for the Boshes and Pegam, even if he is not
entitled to take the money of Kidushei Kesef. On Daf 40b, in contrast, Rashi
says that Boshes and Pegam go to the father since he could be Mekadesh her
with Kidushei *Kesef, Shtar, or Bi'ah" to a Menuval or Mukeh Shechin, since
Rashi there is following the conclusion of our Gemara, that a father *can*
accept Kesef or a Shtar for his daughter's Kidushin. (M. Kornfeld)